Consider the moments:
Over lunch with friends you discuss Northern Ireland.
Although you have never spoken a word on the subject,
you find yourself heatedly defending British policies.
You work as an executive in the investments department
of a bank. In the evenings you smoke marijuana
and listen to the Grateful Dead.
You sit in a cafe and wonder
what it would be like to have an intimate relationship
with various strangers walking past.
You are a lawyer in a prestigious midtown firm.
On the weekends you work on a novel about romance
with a terrorist.
You go to a Moroccan restaurant and afterward take in the latest show
at a country-and-western bar.
From The Saturated Self: Dilemmas of Identity in Contemporay Life by Kenneth J. Gergen. Line breaks added by Ted Bonham.